Advertisement
YOU ARE HERE: IVPress HomeCollections

Voice: Because he was the eldest

May 12, 2002

Last night my younger son asked me why his older brother was always so serious looking.

He doesn't walk around with a smile and acts more like a parent instead of a 20-year old

My only thought was, because he was the eldest.

My younger one, when I became a single parent and you were still a babe, your brother was given the extra responsibilities, because he was the eldest.

When I would come home and try to get some sleep between my two jobs, he watched you, because he was the eldest.

As you were growing up and enjoying your childhood without any cares, he was helping with the chores, because he was the eldest.

Advertisement

If you got into mischief or hurt, he got scolded, too, because he was the eldest.

When he wanted time with his friends, I made him take you along to give me time to catch up on the housework, bills, meals; because he was the eldest.

He taught you to swim, ride a bike, change a flat and tie your tie; because he was the eldest.

When he came home from college one weekend and gave you his old pickup, his only mode of transportation, so you could have a car to drive to high school, he did so because he was the eldest.

When he would try to give you guidance and chastise you, you would get angry and yell at him that he wasn't your father and couldn't tell you anything, not realizing that it was his right; because he was the eldest.

I gave him that right, when without thinking, I cheated him of his carefree childhood days; because he was the eldest.

When I ran out of money for his college and he had to return home, he was disappointed with life's circumstances, but has made adjustments to be able to attend another college on his own, he showed his wisdom of dealing with challenges; because he was the eldest.

Yes, he is more serious, but he has also grown into a responsible young man, a leader, not a follower, honest and hardworking; because he was the eldest.

So to all the first-born, you know who you are, my heart swells with pride on your accomplishments, I thank you as a parent, for helping me carry my load and I apologize for not giving you more to smile about, because you were the eldest.

LINDA WILSON VALENZUELA

El Centro

Imperial Valley Press Online Articles
|
|
|